When recently travelling to Spain, my husband and I with marginal Spanish abilities and a little effort enjoyed interactions wherever we explored. Sometimes our efforts translated into a bowl of green olives “on the house”! Although starting a conversation required some extra energy, the rewards were worth it, even if just for the smile and appreciation. Truthfully there wasn’t much we could say.

The same possibility for connection is true when sharing a common language! Although reaching out with a greeting or handshake, for example, might mean taking a small risk, making the effort is worth it, even for the introvert!

In this article we’re assuming that you want to “be social”: enjoy those around you, in your circles, and at work, without having to lead or facilitate the conversation. The good news is that we can achieve enjoyment from only a little effort. Connecting is actually a simple proposition.

Here’s how to create thoughtful links with anyone you see.

The Hola. Hello

Smile and say “Hello” in words that work for you: Good morning, Hey, Hi, What’s Up, Yo, Greetings! Be the first to offer a “hello” even if no one else has done so. The environment around you will instantly change. If the situation requires an introduction, grab a breath and reach out with a handshake. Don’t wait! You’ll be rewarded with appreciative reciprocation.

Por favor. Please

“Please” is helpful and inviting no matter what you want to say:  Please update me, please tell me about, please share, please let me know, yes, please… It’s easy to say “please”.

Gracias. Thank you.

Saying thank you is kind. Thank you can also be used early in a conversation to acknowledge participation and effort on your behalf: for example, thank you for sharing or thank you for asking me about…Gratitude transcends tensions.

A Few Extra Words. Nos gusta (we like) Muy bien (very good).

Even if it’s only to remark on something about the weather, or the space, it’s helpful to have something positive to say to “break the ice” and create goodwill.  Offering a few sincere pleasantries creates warmth.

At a Table In Time we choreograph small details to set the stage for thoughtful conversation. The greeting, inclusive language, and extra thoughtful words create ease and help forge initial connection. When basics are in place, group conversation becomes accessible to everyone.

The Spanish people were incredibly kind and patient. Making the effort was what mattered more than actually what was said.

Warm-hearted people and beauty are around us everyday. Maybe you won’t get free olives but with a little effort the rewards of connecting with others will surpass your expectations.

Por favor, Muy bien, Gracias!

Year of Confab 2017

#27 How do you like to greet others? What “rewards” do you offer?