Some friends are very comfortable sharing their political views on Social Media, rallying others together, and expressing an opinion. I’m more reticent which isn’t to say that I don’t have an opinion. Frankly I can loose my sense of humor sometimes, which shuts down the conversation.  And, I just don’t know all the facts!

Although political conversations are fraught with pitfalls, it’s breathtaking to consider the choices we have, “good or bad”, for freedom of expression in our beautiful rich country.  Recently over an evening that was initially planned to be a “quick dinner, Jay and I over-stayed many hours with dear friends because of a long expansive political discussion. Everyone ventured into different topics very carefully, taking turns to deeply listen to each other’s opinions.

Talking politics is not always possible, nor appropriate.   Sometimes we already know that a two-way dialog won’t ensue or conversing about society’s problems just doesn’t fit the venue. Nevertheless, politics can be a topic at the table. During our recent evening we felt enlivened and motivated to finally discuss some of our country’s serious challenges and its leadership. Don’t you yearn to do the same?

So, how do we talk about politics around the table, over a meal? Here are a few heartfelt suggestions:

• Bring our best self to the table.  “Our best self” means that we’re kind, thoughtful, and respectful. No personal attacks allowed or jokes on someone else’s behalf, ever.
• Hear different perspectives. As discussion “goes political” remind yourself that it’s crucial in any relationship to stay open to new or dissimilar ideas. That’s how relationships can be strengthened.
• Listen without an agenda. Yes, the voices will be going off in our head negating truly hearing and understanding another’s opinion. Pull back the reins…take a breath and just relax into listening. If you’re in disagreement, you’ll have a response, to share either way. First, out of friendship and respect, listen.

Remember that agreement is not required. Frankly the “body politic” will decide. But how lucky are we at least to have the opportunity to share and hear each other! It can be as delicious as the meal.